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I live with eldest daugther's guilt

Medical gaslighting should be considered a malpractice.

this is why people are scarred to say what they feel they dont want to end in a 5150

Sorry in my case I was the youngest.

anyone eles here heard someone get called a 5150 so you come to see what it means

I noticed what they praised and what they would make fun of and that’s how I shaped my mask. when I take it off they just try and pray it all away, I was just trying to survive. They don’t acknowledge any of it. They see trying to talk things through as a personal attack. Idk Omg have I tried to pray it away. Now I’m trying to accept and work with my brain instead of seeing it as an enemy. I don’t know if my family will ever see it differently.

As a very sensitive person, it’s not easy.. sometimes we just need to recharge and have some snacks in a small sensory room..

#5 is SOOOOOOOOO important!!

My daughter has been diagnosed with ODD and ADHD since she was 4 and has been medicated since she was 5 for her condition. The medications helped quite a bit but there is still a huge problem with impulse control and it creates meltdowns on the regular. Therapy has helped her understand whats going on but she cannot control her brain when she goes on these tantrums. She has said "Its not her" after she calms down and is always more mad that it happened.

That’s a very smart point if our caregivers tells us we are not to listen to our body or emotions as they are sinful , that’s the opposite of DBT !

Super helpful summation, thank you 🙏 I would only add that a key condition for limerence is uncertainty as to how the object feels about you - ideal conditions for limerence to flourish is if they give you *just enough* attention to make you think they might possibly be into you too, but not enough for you to be sure. So, directly asking for clarification about whether the object is actually interested in you is a way to get yourself out the other side. I got limerent AF for a colleague when I was going through my divorce and this advice helped me get past it.

sending care prayers and love and positive vibes too everyone having mental health is hard we all suffer no matter what your going though we all need to believe and have hope that things will get better for us in time its important to know we are seen and heard that we are not alone in our struggles its taken a lot for me to say and share this because of my own mental health we have to try and stay strong and push though it is all we can do ❤💜🤗

I am not the eldest sibling . But I am the only daughter. I have two older brothers (11 and 7 years older) and one younger one. My older middle brother had a lot of addiction problems and mental problems and was often violent. My parent's attentions were often focused on him. I was left to take care of younger brother, and my 85 year old grandfather. After. My youngest sibling grew up got married and divorced I took care of his kids, when my dad got cancer (and later passed) I took care of him. Now it my handicapped mom I take care of. I have 3 siblings, yet it's me alone that takes her to all the appointments and takes care of her daily needs. When my mom was in the hospital for three months. Two siblings visited once and I was there everyday. I don't travel, because there is no one to take care of mom. I don't go out much because she is scared to be alone. It's exhausting.

Here's one zinger for you others will understand: *Why is it hard to accept "help" from from others?* There's more to it of course but I like to give instead of receive emotions in the moment and in person. If I'm writing in my journal sure but in person everything's fine! (Or I'll be too shy or self-conscious. The worst is the telehealth where I'll see my mug on the screen! It's like I'm getting second hand embarassment with myself. 😂) I think I'm just incredibly sensitive but it's tough because I know "talk" therapy is a wonderful tool. Do they have "chat-only" therapy?

@katimorton . I have been posting my question for your AKA podcast for the last few weeks trying to get my question noticed and liked enough to get chosen seems my question just isn't getting anyone's attention but I understand there are so Meany questions that stand out and are important p.s looking forward to your mental health livestream this Saturday much love from nikki 💕

Do NOT look a the sun ... I know that isn't what Kati mean, but looking at the sun will bun you retinas.

@katimorton. so happy too see you again and hear your voice you are looking beautiful with your hair down and pink lipstick lovely pink top suites you 😊I really needed this new AKA podcast today I have been honestly feeling stressed and overwhelmed this week having a lot of thoughts and emotions about so Meany things 😥listening to your voice reading out peoples questions and answering questions is calming and relaxing and very imfomative you always have so much caring important advice ❤💜

I feel extremely unimportant to all. However, I do not fool myself. I am, indeed, unimportant to all. Thus, I feel no need to feel important. Why fool myself into believing I am important when I am most definitely not important. None of us are important. I was brought up knowing nobody is important. All are replaceable. Evil does often win. Good rarely gets ahead. Life is not fair. I am not special.

I'm single and alone. People have always told me that if I needed help, just call them. Then when I call them, they make some lame excuse that they're too busy right now. So now I never ask for help. I hate the humiliation of asking and being turned down over and over again. Totally isolated. I've also been told that my opinion is wrong. How can an opinion be wrong if it's my opinion?

No I don't want damn f****** ear surgery so leave me alone

is limerence even avoidable? Each person of the r'ship sees & feels things their way. If 1 perceived mistreatment & not the other,? will the 1 left have limerence for not understanding what they did wrong?

It sad because everything this lady is saying is exactly what iam going through with the doctors of Gaslighting they should be put in jail 😕 😢😮,,,,,,

I so miss the person who consistently did timestamps :)

What a monster.

You know even if a doctor helps you or not they still get payed and even make fun of us and to use us for as much as they can to get to our insurance money without NO HELP i just got to say this that we are all being use for money gane from these doctors because you see we know our body's better than them so for them to tell us that there is nonething wrong with us is so very wrong and more over they are letting me Die why you my ask well it is because iam a medical malpractice problem as my attorney said how doctors think is it is better to let the patient die so then that way the medical malpractice will go away ,,,so you can believe it or not,,,,😢😢😢😢,,

I agree though that social anxiety has more energy behind it.

And having both is why the Hermit Crab is my spirit animal

I have a weird relationship with relationships. I'm so grateful for your workshops and videos.

Kati! You need to know you saved my life recently! I accidentally took the wrong form of my migraine medication. For some context, being extremely sensitive to medications runs in my family. I take a very low dose in the mornings once a day to manage my migraines. I have been stable on it for 3 years. I was accidentally prescribed the extended release by my new GP, and after being on it for 12 days I developed insomnia and I was awake for 51 hours straight. I felt like I was dying. I have D/CPTSD and the over-medication of my nervous system sent me into overdrive. I went to the ER and was put on a psych hold, understandably. I have DID (diagnosed, in my medical records), and when I started referring to myself in the third person and trying to soothe myself like you would a small child, I thought they'd send me to the psych hospital, which would've been traumatizing. Thankfully, I know how to advocate for myself, and was able to communicate clearly that I wasn't in crisis- I just needed to sleep. They finally gave me Ativan, I was able to sleep, and they sent me home. I have a plethora of coping skills and have been putting myself back together over the last 3 weeks. I had to miss a week of work over this, but that's okay. I saw the GP who made the mistake and she apologized and we're working together to manage my sleep and anxiety. I also have a therapist I see weekly. I owe you a HUGE thanks for helping me learn coping skills, learn about my nervous system, and learn to be curious and not judgemental about myself. So, thank you, Kati. You were a part of my team this whole time and you never even knew it.❤

BPD or ADHD

I start EMDR today. Thanks for the preview 😊

Nope. I am not bringing another modern slave into this broken society to suffer even more! I think that people who have children either don't think ahead about all the responsibilities that come with growing children or they just want them for selfish and wrong reasons. For example, most people who think about having kids, they actually want babies in their lives, because babies are cute and adorable, but they don't think in a long run that those babies will one day become grown women or men. I have personally met many young and irresponsible parents who treat their children as some kind of accessory. It is really ugly behaviour. So calling out those who have really decided not to have kids speaks volumes. So I am not really sure who is selfish here or not.

Thank you Katie for making another GREAT video. I can really relate to this video because I too am the "survivor" of religious trauma. I always remember hearing the old saying from their "good book" "Spare the rod and spoil the child".

I have super vivid dreams and I dream about being with them often and the dream person has altered my perception about the real person making the attachment stronger even though I haven’t spoken to this person in almost 10 years 🫥

I've had maladaptive daydreaming since I was 11 :( It was fun at first but now my studies are really important and its a big obstacle for my studies. Im really scared for my future :(

i could see someone re-acting negatively having to deal with someone new in their life that was acting or treating them like their limerence

The problem is that I have no idea how to get into therapy. I’ve been trying to for four days now.

I wish money was never an issue 🖤☠️ constant reminder no rest for the wicked.

Hello from Florida! I have a question, I'd love to hear your take. I've had two trauma-trained MH providers tell me they weren't equippednto treat my level of childhood trauma (SA with dissociative features, no DPDR, DID, or other diagnosis). Honestly it reinforces the negative self-talk of being "too damaged to come back from." Clinically, I know that's not true, but it's certainly an emotional blow. I'm hesitant to reach out to another provider again. Any advice? Thank you for always offering non-judgemental advice and sharing your clinical expertise.❤

I've known I suffer from limerence for some time, but I didn't know until, like, the last year or so. You didn't discuss it, but I think my limerent objects also include fictional characters (you also didn't specify celebrities, but I'm sure that wasn't something you ruled out either). I have four of the five causes (never been diagnosed with BPD though so) and since I have all that plus a bit of maladaptive daydreaming piled on, I fear that I will never truly love someone and since my ex has backslid in his promise he made to God (he's atheist again), I just feel like giving up on love. I've said it multiple times and often meant it, but I feel like he was honestly my last chance. I am at a loss at this point, and I'm torn between him and finding someone else, and I'm not strong enough either way. Other than maybe using a few resources (if they don't cost an arm and a leg), I just feel like I'm at the end of the road. I understand why slow relationships hurt now, but I don't want to start over again... I feel like I'm living a lie anyway. Since the limerence thing isn't controllable anyway, did I ever truly crush on anyone? Have I ever loved anyone? Can I ever be in a lasting relationship without my insecurities and anxious attachment style screwing everything up? I just don't know anymore... I feel like giving up would make things easier, less stressful for me. But I'd also give up such a vital part of me. I don't even know if it's possible... Am I doomed to this cycle of limerence and hurt? It honestly triggers just a touch of suicidal ideation but more misery and confusion than anything else. This is all just super tiring...

The lobby music caught me off guard 😂😂 very interesting learning something new today about mental illness

Some therapists do more harm than good. Be careful when sticking with them ❤

Sounds like The Empath

I am an eldest child and eldest daughter, and I have carried my caregiver duties into my marriage. .... And I'm worried my oldest child who's also a daughter will just do what I do.....I'm trying to break that... I'm anxious almost all the time

You are a great therapist. Your videos have helped a lot. A big hug from Argentina ❤

I was thinking 'hmm I can't fully relate to any of these' until night eating syndrome showed up. Thank you Kati

To be fair though, a lot of positive talk is bull.

Helpful video!

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Ending tips are total bs because I don’t have any relationships at ALL. Like I genuinely have no connection to another human being so I don’t know why you expect me to build up relationships I don’t have. And don’t tell me to build them, that doesn’t work either and it always ends with people using me in one way or another and discarding me once they’re done. I think I’ll stick to spending hours each day in my head day dreaming about fictional characters. Therapists know NOTHING about how to help the truly traumatized (a decade in therapy traumatized me more, therapists actually don’t want to help you despite the lies they tell to help THEIR OWN bad self esteem)